Updated: Jul 24, 2020
One of the best things that I gifted myself this summer was to reconnect with my coach, Lauren L’Amour. I had so many things on my plate and the “To Do” list was just growing by the minute. My struggle with not having enough time for all my endeavors led me to this great epiphany about organization and accountability. It was then that I reached out to Lauren because after all, the signs of the Universe were pointing me towards coaching and I already knew the person for the job to mentor me.
For all the folks that have never taken coaching before, let me give you a brief on what it is. Life coaching helps you to bridge the gap from where you are to where you want to be in a very specific way but it includes helping you get over blocks in your current situation. Life coaches are your accountability partners to getting things done and helping you reach your goals.
For me, one of my personal goals was to take better care of myself. Fast forward to now, almost end of summer, I’ve gained so much perspective into what it truly means to me to take care of oneself. Hopefully, some of this may resonate with you. It’s incredible how much stuff we pick up along the way of life. The stuff that we accumulate in our homes, from the things that seem great at the moment to the things that we hoped we’d buy some day and then that someday comes and it’s quite not that valuable anymore. Even more, the things we just swear that we need. As I took an inventory of my life, my business ventures and the living space that I call my sanctuary, I was left with the task of clearing it all out and beginning anew. Who knew that taking care of oneself would be tied into looking at all you stood to get rid of? My self care journey was a lesson in understanding why I accumulated so many things. It didn’t end with the things, it continued with the endless classes that I never could stop taking and it was the food that I couldn’t stop eating and it was the work that I couldn’t stop to rest from except to sleep. While drug and alcohol addiction is blatantly a way of numbing, I had learned to numb myself with food and work.
Coaching gave me a chance to reflect on these and recover. I can still say that my work with others begins with me returning to and remembering my wholeness. I’m still clearing out, downsizing and revamping the chaos to a more simple life where a moment of stillness daily in meditation allows me to realign myself with my truth.
“For those of you who struggle with guilt regarding self-care, answer this question: What greater gift can you give to those you love than your own wholeness?” `Sharon Tanner